Why do people in general portray a character? Why do people act like a different person? What do they fear the most? Everyone I have met tends to pretend or act like someone else, someone they are not. Even I do it. Is it wrong or is it right? What is wrong or right is relative. During the World Wars, taking peoples lives was justified. Now it is not. It never was, in the view of humanity. But it somehow was justified. Still I don't understand it. Maybe we had to actually be there to understand. So why do we all act? Is it natural to act? Act according to the way the people in our lives want us to. What do people in our lives mean? People in our lives mean the people whom you can care about. No matter what. Can we live a life like this?
I would like to live my life the way I want to. Everyone would. There is a huge risk though. If each one of us lived the way we like, we would never have friends, we would never have partners for life. Why so? Are we all so different that we cannot be the natural way we are? No, actually we are all the same. We are same in so many ways we don't think of. We are humans. We belong to one species. We belong to one earth.
People judge. I judge. We judge people based on the smallest to the biggest things that we define as small or big. We make decisions to know a particular person or not based solely on what we have judged. Can we all be right all the time? Isn't it human to make mistakes? How about we take up that we make mistakes about judging each and every person that we judge? Will that solve the problem? No. We will continue to judge people, however accurate we are or not. According to our brains, we are all accurate else we wouldn't judge people. We all believe we don't have enough time to get to know the person so we judge. Its natural. We can't help it. We sometimes judge by the way the person is at that moment. Who the hell knows why that person is behaving the way one is then? Still we judge. We think we can think of all the possible things that could have caused the person behaving the way one was and we judge. Judging is not good. It hurts the person who is being judged. Whether the judgement about them was good or bad, it doesn't matter. It always hurts. Why? Because we all feel that we are special. That nobody knows us the way we do about ourselves. So it doesn't matter if the judgement was good or bad. It hurts because, every time we are being judged, we feel unworthy of their time, the time it would take people to listen to us, the time it would take people to be friends with us, the time it would take people to love us. We feel that they don't know why we take the decisions we take, why we make the choices that we make, why we feel happy, why we feel sad, why we feel angry, why we feel disappointed, why we feel excited, why we feel passionate, why we feel nothing sometimes, why we feel everything sometimes. We feel nobody has the patience or even curiosity to know why we are the way we are. Everyone will get offended if one is said to by another person that they know them. Everyone keeps secrets. Some secrets are so deep that only the fear of death brings those secrets into the foreground thought process. We never share these secrets. We might have shared these secrets once that fear has gone away but I believe everyone has secrets at a particular point of time that we just cannot share it, which surfaces when faced with the fear we most fear about. Even each one of us are not consciously aware that these secrets exist until that situation is faced. So how will any one of us know who each one really are. These secrets are mostly what define us, sub consciously of course. So how do we know what the other person really is?
Think of this common situation. You are on a date with a girl and obviously you are trying to impress her. Maybe one'll change for the better or worse at that moment, but we are all the same. Its funny how we are aware that the person who is sitting right in front of you, doesn't know you at all but knows everything that is wrong with you. Does she really know what is wrong with us? No, but she judges and makes her decisions based on the judgement. That feeling that everything wrong with us is so obvious to the other person but its a mystery to our own selves is nothing but that judgement that is being passed on us from a different set of eyes, a different vision. We know what we are, everybody does know our own selves. But we don't really know what the other person's eyes see, what their perspective is, what their image of us is. We will never come to know. Because even they act, they pretend to understand us, they pretend to love us while all they needed was company ( could be for sex, could be to kill loneliness ), the fact of the matter is everyone of us acts.
Our lives is like the film industry. The good actors are recognized and loved by few, while the ones who just act the way most people want to is loved and recognized by many. So do you want to be a good actor or an actor that most people would approve of. Its again a choice, depends on individual to individual. We can never say why that the individual made a choice between the two. But we can for sure say this, if we act the way that seems most inline with the way natural to us, we would be good actors ( unlike the film industry's definition of good actors). If we act the way that is most unnatural to us, then we would be greatly accepted actors because most of the time it is to please the environment. Who is happier? The good actor or the great actor? The good actor will eventually realize true happiness, while the great actor might enjoy short lived happiness time to time. Make a choice, make a decision. People will always judge. People are so different. There might be someone that thinks you have made the wrong choice. But its only you that can actually tell.
I would like to live my life the way I want to. Everyone would. There is a huge risk though. If each one of us lived the way we like, we would never have friends, we would never have partners for life. Why so? Are we all so different that we cannot be the natural way we are? No, actually we are all the same. We are same in so many ways we don't think of. We are humans. We belong to one species. We belong to one earth.
People judge. I judge. We judge people based on the smallest to the biggest things that we define as small or big. We make decisions to know a particular person or not based solely on what we have judged. Can we all be right all the time? Isn't it human to make mistakes? How about we take up that we make mistakes about judging each and every person that we judge? Will that solve the problem? No. We will continue to judge people, however accurate we are or not. According to our brains, we are all accurate else we wouldn't judge people. We all believe we don't have enough time to get to know the person so we judge. Its natural. We can't help it. We sometimes judge by the way the person is at that moment. Who the hell knows why that person is behaving the way one is then? Still we judge. We think we can think of all the possible things that could have caused the person behaving the way one was and we judge. Judging is not good. It hurts the person who is being judged. Whether the judgement about them was good or bad, it doesn't matter. It always hurts. Why? Because we all feel that we are special. That nobody knows us the way we do about ourselves. So it doesn't matter if the judgement was good or bad. It hurts because, every time we are being judged, we feel unworthy of their time, the time it would take people to listen to us, the time it would take people to be friends with us, the time it would take people to love us. We feel that they don't know why we take the decisions we take, why we make the choices that we make, why we feel happy, why we feel sad, why we feel angry, why we feel disappointed, why we feel excited, why we feel passionate, why we feel nothing sometimes, why we feel everything sometimes. We feel nobody has the patience or even curiosity to know why we are the way we are. Everyone will get offended if one is said to by another person that they know them. Everyone keeps secrets. Some secrets are so deep that only the fear of death brings those secrets into the foreground thought process. We never share these secrets. We might have shared these secrets once that fear has gone away but I believe everyone has secrets at a particular point of time that we just cannot share it, which surfaces when faced with the fear we most fear about. Even each one of us are not consciously aware that these secrets exist until that situation is faced. So how will any one of us know who each one really are. These secrets are mostly what define us, sub consciously of course. So how do we know what the other person really is?
Think of this common situation. You are on a date with a girl and obviously you are trying to impress her. Maybe one'll change for the better or worse at that moment, but we are all the same. Its funny how we are aware that the person who is sitting right in front of you, doesn't know you at all but knows everything that is wrong with you. Does she really know what is wrong with us? No, but she judges and makes her decisions based on the judgement. That feeling that everything wrong with us is so obvious to the other person but its a mystery to our own selves is nothing but that judgement that is being passed on us from a different set of eyes, a different vision. We know what we are, everybody does know our own selves. But we don't really know what the other person's eyes see, what their perspective is, what their image of us is. We will never come to know. Because even they act, they pretend to understand us, they pretend to love us while all they needed was company ( could be for sex, could be to kill loneliness ), the fact of the matter is everyone of us acts.
Our lives is like the film industry. The good actors are recognized and loved by few, while the ones who just act the way most people want to is loved and recognized by many. So do you want to be a good actor or an actor that most people would approve of. Its again a choice, depends on individual to individual. We can never say why that the individual made a choice between the two. But we can for sure say this, if we act the way that seems most inline with the way natural to us, we would be good actors ( unlike the film industry's definition of good actors). If we act the way that is most unnatural to us, then we would be greatly accepted actors because most of the time it is to please the environment. Who is happier? The good actor or the great actor? The good actor will eventually realize true happiness, while the great actor might enjoy short lived happiness time to time. Make a choice, make a decision. People will always judge. People are so different. There might be someone that thinks you have made the wrong choice. But its only you that can actually tell.